Retirement Coffee Shop: 2021

Wednesday, December 22, 2021

WOW!

One of my favorite business books is The Pursuit of Wow! by Tom Peters. I read this book many years ago and have referred back to it on a regular basis. The book basically talks about the old saying "If something is worth doing, it is worth doing well". But, Peters takes that idea to an even higher level. He talks about doing things in a way that a person would come away from the experience with the thought of Wow! He explains that if you are in charge of the office Christmas party, do the task at such a high level that those that attend come away with the feeling of Wow! what a party. Peters talks about applying this Wow! approach to any thing you do. The thought is so go above and beyond and even outside the box to provide an exceptional product.

I used this idea when approaching at least two promotional interviews during my career and believe those that interviewed me came away with the feeling of Wow! and promoted me. In preparation for those interviews I talked with district managers of the area that was covered by the new job. I talked with customers in that area to ask what is going well and what needed improved. I talked with employees on that team that I would manage. I talked with fellow managers about that position. I called and talked with anyone I could think that had been impacted or would be impacted by the position I was looking to get. When asked in the interview "How did you prepare for this interview?", I was able to Wow! them with my prep. The typical answer they heard was probably, "I reviewed the policy and procedures and memorized the mission statement". When I answered, I believe they would have said to themselves "Wow, This guy really wants this job".

I believe any new graduate, new employee or new entrepreneur could benefit from reading this book. You could use this practice of Wow! in any situation. You could use it at work, at church and at home. If you used this idea, you could create the best birthday or neighborhood party. You could put on the best program at church. You could run the best scout group or school PTA. You could put on the best cookout. I routinely have a Hotdog Extravaganza! It's a basic hotdog but it sounds better to call it an Extravaganza.

If you think about it the Wow! feeling does not come around often. One business that must use this concept is Chick-fil-a. You are greeted and treated very well, the food is good and they take care of you while you are there. The phrase "my pleasure" is uttered every time you thank them for bringing your order or refilling your drink. They come around to your table to ask if you need anything and refill your drinks. What other fast food chain does this? None that I know of. I think if you had never been to a Chick-fil-a and go in for the first time, I think you come out the door with the thought Wow! that was a great experience!

I recently had a Wow! experience at a Discount Tire store in Houston, TX. I had a large screw in my tire and needed a repair or a new tire. I was met at the car by a guy who was ready to take care of me. He looked at the tire and escorted me into the store. He provided top notch service and got my car right in for new tires. He had to order two and scheduled me for a return appointment. While I sat there looking into the shop through a large window I felt like I was watching a NASCAR pit crew. The workers were fast and efficient. They were getting cars in and out very fast. The shop was organized and super clean. Not your typical garage junk and gunk. While I was watching my car, the inside guy comes over to update me on my wait time. On my return trip to get the other two new tires, I noticed a long line of cars getting their air checked. The weather had turned cool overnight and I'm sure half of Houston had a low tire light on. This store provided a free air check. The worker was quickly going around each car and topping off the pressure and then on to the next one. What a Wow! The store owner was paying a guy to put air in your tire for free while you waited in the comfort of your car. The owner obviously was paying the employee to do something that brought no revenue in but was taking care of current and future customers. My two tires were put on in a flash and I was out of there. I told the inside supervisor how impressed I was with the operation and he immediately went out to the the shop who relayed the message to the owner or manager who looked pleased. I left a great online comment similar to the above words. I noticed a ton of accolades for the store and then one person who left a negative comment about the stool cushion not being soft enough. Of all the Wow! surrounding them, they found a tiny little thing to complain about because their seat wasn't soft enough.

These Wow! moments are rare and you can see how you could stand out if you made the effort to Wow! someone with your efforts. It is a great tactic that can be used in every aspect of your life. Last night my wife and I had a small Wow! moment. We are temporarily in Houston for my wife's cancer treatment. We are in a housing complex that gives free housing to patients. Most of the residents are cancer patients and transplant patients that need to be close to the hospitals for lengthy treatment. We have met some great people here and last night one couple invited us and another couple to their apartment for a Christmas dinner. We are all here with what we brought in our car or with things provided with the apartment. There is limited cooking supplies and space in the apartment. This couple put together a Wow! dinner. We arrived to their apartment to find a cooked turkey, a huge pan of dressing, a huge pan of green bean casserole, a huge pan of sweet potatoes, a huge pot of corn and rolls. They had a nice Christmas table cloth on the table and had a fire going on the TV with Christmas music. It was a great night of food and talking. They provided a Wow! dinner with limited resources and helped brighten our Christmas season under our current circumstance. Thanks Stan and Tammie!

Have you experienced a Wow! moment recently? Have you used this concept to provide a Wow! experience to an individual or group? Maybe you did something way over the top, like had a real elephant at your kid's birthday party! Tell me about your Wow! moments.

Wednesday, December 1, 2021

Frauds and Swindles

fraud

noun

1.wrongful or criminal deception intended to result in financial or personal gain:"he was convicted of fraud"

swin·dle

verb

1.use deception to deprive (someone) of money or possessions:"a businessman swindled investors out of millions of dollars"

noun

1.a fraudulent scheme or action:"he is mixed up in a $10 million insurance swindle"

It seems, in this world of ours, that there are many, many people out there trying to separate you from your money. Most people and businesses are doing it the right way and trying to get your money by offering you something you need or want. The oil companies try to persuade you that their gas is better for your car or their oil will make your engine last longer. Restaurants offer you a great meal with price and convenience. Walmart offers you everything you need to run your household from toilet paper and food to camping gear. Online shopping offers you a great deal and shipping right to your door. You make your own personal decision on where to spend your money based on questions of "What do I need?", "What do I like?" and "What do I want?".

On the flip side of this is the evil, criminal element that tries to get your money by giving you an inferior product or no product at all. There are countless frauds and fraudsters out in the world. My career in law enforcement exposed me to many fraudulent schemes over the years. When I first started working in the early 1990's the big fraud was the "boiler room" operations that operated by mail and phone. A victim would be sent a postcard or letter advising them that they had won fabulous prizes or cash. All you had to do was call a 1-800 number to claim it. Once they got you on the phone they attempted to collect fees for taxes or shipping and then sent you nothing at all. If the heat got to intense from law enforcement they would vacate their room and move to a different city or state and start all over again. Next came the Nigerian scams where you were notified that a large sum of money needs to be moved by a Nigerian prince and that you would be paid well to help facilitate getting the money out of that country.

There are frauds that involve winning your love or friendship which is employed by prisoners or internet prowlers who profess their love for you and slowly drain you of funds. They love you but need money to pay for a plane ticket to come see you. Then they need money to pay customs officials for some made up reason. They give you a thousand excuses that cost money and they dearly need your help. My wife was friendly to a lady at a local hamburger restaurant and she kept telling her of her latest online love and how they were going to marry her and were building her a brand new house. She was in the middle of sending him payments to total $5000 so she could get the new house. No amount of talking with her would convince her it was a fraud. Then she continued to tell us about previous frauds and how she was paying her bank payments on several of those frauds.

Some of the latest scams involve crypto currencies. I read a news article about scammers setting up brokerage style websites where you could buy a wide variety of crypto currencies and then buy and sell on their website. The issue was that you could send them money, buy the crypto currencies but you could never get your money out. Eventually, the sites just disappear as well as your money. There are fraudsters who swoop into a storm damaged area and take cash up front for debris removal, roof repair, etc. and then never show up to do the job. There are fraudsters on the internet who will sell you something with cash up front and then never provide the product. One of the most recent internet frauds, that I saw, was the selling of pets. Never give anyone cash through the internet based on a photo. Another recent scam involved fraudsters selling or renting out vacant homes that they did not own. They break into a vacant house, change the locks and the rent it out and collect cash on a monthly basis until they are found out. One woman in Detroit had bought a vacant home, was promised a title, and then remodeled the place. She was later evicted by the real homeowner. It is crazy what these fraudsters come up with.

At the bottom of this blog is a list of scams that are listed on the AARP website, a great source of information.

There are fraudsters everywhere, so beware. Do your homework before you spend your money. Retirees are especially vulnerable to fraudsters. As retirees age they become a huge target of fraudsters hoping to take advantage of your trust. Look out for yourself and if your parents are still around look out for them. These fraudsters pray on those that are older and may be more trusting or those that are at stages of dementia and have reduced capacity to understand these scams.

Have you been the victim or target of a fraud? Have you heard of any unusual scam that we all need to know about?

I've got to close this out for now. I have to call a guy back about my car warranty!

Thursday, November 25, 2021

529 For The Grandchildren

Before our first grandchild was born my wife and I decided that we would open a 529 for her and then for future grandchildren as they were born. A 529 savings plan has many benefits. You can contribute towards future educational expenses with all earnings being tax free, much like a Roth IRA. You can open a 529 for anyone at anytime. The plan can even be used for K-12 tuition and college expenses. You can withdraw the money at any time, but earnings can be subject to income taxes. The plan has tremendous flexibility. You can also change the beneficiary at any time. If one child or grandchild doesn't go to college or gets a scholarship, you can change the beneficiary to another child or grandchild.

I discussed with my wife that I thought we should open an account, put in a starter amount and then contribute $25 a month. It won't be a huge amount when they go to college, but it will help a little. She quickly suggested that we should do $100 or more. I said that would be fine for now, but what happens when we have 8 grandkids! So we stuck with the $25 for now. It was a good call because we have twin granddaughters on the way! If you put $25 a month in for 18 years you wind up with $5400 plus earnings. So, not a bad sum to help with college expenses. Of course, this is a starting point and you could always contribute larger amounts and pay for most if not all of college if you wanted to.

The rules are pretty simple on opening a 529. You must be a US citizen, over 18 and have a social security number and mailing address. There are no income limits. If you have grandkids, I encourage you to look into opening an account for them. Even a small amount, given monthly, adds up over the years. With the cost of college continually increasing, maybe we can save enough to buy a book or two at minimum. Most states have their own 529 plan as well as the various brokerage companies out there.

I believe you can also save for college expenses through a Roth IRA. You can withdraw from a Roth IRA, tax free, for college expenses. Whichever avenue you use, always contribute as early and as often as possible.

Have you had success with 529 plans or Roth IRA plans? Did you save for college a different way? Are you currently funding an account for grandkids? If so, do you have any additional advice?

Friday, November 19, 2021

How Much Is Too Much?

Two of my favorite comic book characters when I was a kid were Ritchie Ritch and Scrooge McDuck. Ritchie had all the cool and fun toys and even had a dog named Dollar. Ritchie was always smiling and having fun adventures. On the exact opposite you had Scrooge McDuck who swam in his money and only wanted more and more money.

Recently, there were news stories about the Democrats considering a tax on the ultra wealthy. They had plans to tax those who were worth billions of dollars. The issue was shelved and replaced with a possible tax hike on those making $5 million or more with an extra 3% surtax. There is a large section of the public that wants to tax the rich as much as they can to pay for social programs. So, "how much is too much?'" is being looked at on the government level.

Recent statistics show that there are about 8.3 million millionaire households in the US or about 6.7% of all US households. A lot of millionaires would consider themselves well off but not "rich". A lot of households may reach the millionaire status by owning a home and having a good retirement next egg. But even if you have a $1 million dollar nest egg and draw out the recommended 4% a year, your yearly income may only be $40K even though you are a millionaire. You certainly can't live the rich lifestyle unless you cash it all out and blow it in year one or two! The US is also home to 630 billionaires. That is a lot of wealth! The first person in the world to hold the title of billionaire was John D. Rockefeller. He reportedly crossed that threshold in 1916. His wealth is estimated to be $300-400 billion in today's money. Rockefeller made his fortune in oil. Other wealthy Americans over the years include Cornelius Vanderbilt, Andrew Carnegie, Henry Ford, Sam Walton, Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos and Elon Musk just to name a few. In my opinion, these men made huge contributions to society by building railroads, cars, computers, electric cars, space travel, etc. There is a certain class of the rich that have done mankind a tremendous service while also making a fortune for their efforts. All have provided employment to countless people and have changed the world for the better. They have shown they are more capable of accomplishing something quicker and more efficient than the government. Regardless of their contribution to society, is it too much when the 7 richest people own about $1 trillion?

So, back to the question. Is there an upward limit to how much any one person should be allowed to possess? Where do you set the bar? Is it $1 million, $100 million, $1 billion, $100 billion or more? In my lifetime I may see the first trillionaire. When I was young, I remember being in awe that Sam Walton was worth $1 billion. My how things have changed and now billionaires are everywhere. If the government gets into the business of setting a limit of "how much is too much" it will get it's hooks into a whole new line of taxation. Once the government sets the limit of $100 billion, how quickly will that number be reduced over the years until more and more people get surtaxed to death? If a large amount of their funds were transferred to the government through taxation I fear the government would not get that same return on those dollars.

Many of the billionaires listed above are also the world's top philanthropist and have given billions of dollars to charity and good causes. Many cities have libraries built by Carnegie. Bill Gates has a huge foundation giving away billions of dollars. Many have pledged to give away the majority of their wealth.

There are also the bad billionaires out there in the world. Pablo Escobar is one that gained his wealth from illegal drugs and ultimately died in a hail of bullets. Bernie Madoff made his wealth swindling people and died while in prison. The Sackler family made billions by selling the poison Oxycontin which contributed to about 190,000 opioid deaths since 1999. The Sacklers settled lawsuits for $4.5 billion but kept most of their wealth. (I've been watching Dopesick on Hulu about the Sackler family and Purdue Pharma).

Is there a difference in a self made billionaire and one who inherited billionaire status from previous generations? The original one may have earned the money by making society better while the latter just got the status by just being born in the right family. Should that make a difference in answering the question of "how much is too much?". In trying to figure out "how much is too much?" what parameters should there be. Once the limit is set, how do you enforce that limit? Does the government just take over their assets and businesses of one who reaches the limit like some communist country? Do you just tax everything over the limit at 100% and have them write the IRS a check? Do you make them give everything over the limit to charity. These are hard questions with no clear answer.

What is your opinion of "how much is too much?".

Saturday, November 13, 2021

How Much Is Enough?

How much money is enough to be happy, to live and to retire? I have heard the quote below many times over the years and it seems to be the thought of most humans regardless of how much you have.

John D. Rockefeller, the founder of the Standard Oil Company, the first billionaire of the United States of America and once the richest man on Earth was asked by a reporter, “How much money is enough?” He calmly replied, “Just a little bit more”.

I think of how many times over the years that I have thought that the next raise will allow me to save or spend a little more and will make life easier. I quickly adjust to the extra money and it becomes the new normal. I was in the mode of "Just a little bit more". I have read many studies and articles that say more money doesn't affect your happiness once you reach an income of around $75,000 a year. Most of us think that a million dollars or a billion dollars would make us so much happier. I would at least like to give the billionaire lifestyle a try just to see if the studies are right! The studies show that at $75,000 your basic needs are met and you have enough for leisure activities to make you pretty happy.

One study says that after $75,000 happiness is increased at a smaller degree with increase in income but that you reach peak emotional well-being at $95,000 and peak life satisfaction at $105,000. While much higher than the average income of US citizens it is definitely obtainable for the middle class. Studies also show that the level changes depending on where you are in the world. People of New Zealand need $125,000 for peak happiness while people of the Caribbean only need $35,000. I would guess this also would apply to how you grew up here in the U.S. If you grew up in poverty, I would think that an income of $40,000 would make you happy and that if you grew up in a wealthy family, even an income way over the $105,000 would not make you happy at all.

As I get older, my thoughts on happiness have changed. I think the younger you are and just starting out in a career and life, the more you think money and material things will make you happier. You look forward to that new furniture, new car, first new house, etc. and it does make you happier for a little while. Then the furniture gets scratched, the car gets up in mileage and the house is not as big as you need and the happiness fades away. As I get older, I find happiness in being with friends and family, sipping coffee on a cool rainy morning, reading a good book, enjoying a vacation. I have read that things we experience are much better for happiness than things we buy or own. I agree with that whole heartedly. So, get out there and "do" rather than "get".

This moving target of "how much is enough" applies to retirement savings. You hear numbers thrown out all the time such as a million dollars, or ten times your salary and many other benchmarks. There is so much information out there in the world on how much you need to retire and how much to withdraw each year. There is information on where to invest and what your portfolio percentages should be. My advice is, if you aren't already retired, is just to follow the old saying "save as much as you can and start as early as you can". Retirement nest eggs are much like the income needed for happiness in that it all depends on multiple factors. There is no perfect number for a satisfying retirement. Some may want a retirement that requires a smaller income and some may want to sail around the world in a new sailboat and require a much larger nest egg.

How much house is enough? The average American home has increased by an average of 1000 feet since 1973 and the living space per person has doubled in size. The average size of a new home today in the US is about 2700 square feet. Today's homes are often referred to as McMansions. For those of us who are retired, we are at the age that we remember smaller childhood homes vs today's larger homes. How in the world did my family (parents and 3 kids) get by with one bathroom back in the day?

"How much is enough?" can apply to about anything in our lives. It can apply to money, material things, exercise, food, alcohol, etc. All have a limit, that once you exceed can have a detrimental impact rather than a positive impact. I routinely exceed my limit of sugar and carbs and the extra weight will impact me negatively with eventual health problems if I don't drop back down to the "perfect amount" range.

How much is enough for you? Has your idea of "enough" changed over the years? If retired, did you reach the number that you needed to get to the retirement you dreamed of? Did you obtain a McMansion and later downsize in retirement? Have you exceeded the "perfect amount" range in some aspect of your life that has led to a negative impact?

Monday, November 8, 2021

Pet Peeves

I have numerous things that I consider my pet peeves. Some irritate me a little, some a lot. Some of them I just shake my head at the stupidity of some of our fellow earthlings.

Definition of pet peeve

: a frequent subject of complaint

My number 1 pet peeve is drivers on their cell phone while driving or at a stop sign or traffic light. I am quick on the horn when the light turns green and the other two lanes are already a hundred yards down the road while the person in front of me is oblivious as they check their latest "must see" text or post. Drives me crazy and I seem to be behind these drivers about 8 our of 10 lights! When I drive, my phone is usually in my pocket. Sure, I feel the vibration of a text or notification while on the road, but I will get to it in 30 minutes or an hour down the road. This activity really gets to me when I see a newscast about a death on the road caused by a distracted driver. It is a loss of someone's life just because that driver had to look down and focus on their phone instead of the road.

Another big peeve of mine, leaving your trash on the parking lot of Walmart or anywhere else. How many of you have seen the used diaper sitting in the parking lot? Why in the world does someone think placing the used diaper outside your car door, on the parking lot, is a great idea? I also see upright Big Gulp drink cups, small bags of trash from drive thru restaurants, etc. I was in the car recently waiting on my wife to make a quick trip into a store. While sitting in the parking lot, I see a car pull out of a parking spot and drive down the aisle and then stop, open the door, and set a Big Gulp cup on the ground and drive off. What the heck? My wife and I owned a coin operated laundry for a few years. Often, I would find a pile of cigarette buttes in the parking spots in front of our laundry. It was obvious someone emptied out their car ashtray while waiting on their laundry. I complained one day to my wife after cleaning the parking area and said "Why do they do that, do they just think someone is going to come around and clean up their mess?" She replied "Isn't that what just happened". She got me on that one.

Other pet peeves:

People who can't smoke inside a place but choose to smoke 2 feet from the front entrance. Please, just step away a little further.
People who go in the exit and out the entrance to some stores. I've even seen some of these people set off alarms at Walmart at the stores that have the little bars across the exit area.
A very recent one.....People who let their 4 young kids drive the electric handicap carts at the grocery stores chasing each other and ramming them like bumper cars! Really! Where were the shopping cart police for that one?
People who stand in line to order food for 15 minutes and not know what they want when it comes their turn.
People talking loudly on their cell phones in a small or crowded space. Even more of an irritation when they have it on speaker phone mode! Ditto, for those that watch a constant stream of Tiktok and other videos endlessly with the volume up or on speaker.
Similar to above.....parents who let their kids watch videos and play games in restaurants with volume up. Please get some headphones!

I have a lot of other pet peeves that I can't think of at the moment. What are your biggest pet peeves? Do any of the above cause you some irritation also?

I often have told my family that I would like to take all the stupid people in the world and ship them to Mars. I just now realized that wouldn't be fair to Mars as it would not take long before that beautiful red landscape would be littered with dirty diapers and cigarette buttes!

Sunday, October 31, 2021

Social Clubs

I promised the last post would set up this post and be related to retirement. If you have ever been in a McDonald's in the early morning you have probably seen a table full of retired men having their coffee and solving the world's problems. I think I have seen these groups in almost every McDonald's I've ever visited. Recently I saw a similar group at a Panera Bread. Before retirement, I admired these social clubs and thought I would join one someday when I retired. I figured it would be nice to meet regularly to work on the world problems with other like minded scholars. Back in my hometown of about 800, there was a similar group that met at the local convenience store that had a small sitting area. This was known in town as the "Learning Center". I guess it was named well because they learned about everything going on in town and with each other.

I've seen some of the McDonald's social club that look like they meet daily. I saw one club adjourning for the morning with the statement of "See you next Wednesday". So, different social clubs must have different meet times and frequency. I guess instead of a social club they should be call a McClub.

Studies have shown that socializing in retirement is good for a retiree. Some retirees are heavily involved in volunteering, part time work, church work, etc. Some also have regular social engagements such as McClub meetings, golf outings, brunch gatherings, etc. I have yet to join a social group and need to start looking. My question would be, how do you go about joining a McClub? Are there rules that say you have to be invited in like the Mason's? Can you just go up to the table and ask what the membership requirements are? I don't know if some of the McClubs are made up of lifelong friends or if they all met while getting their senior coffee at McDonald's.

I'm very interested in getting with one of these groups and working on issues such as climate change and global hunger. I believe it was a McClub that was responsible for getting the first man to the moon, but I'm not sure. I would also enjoy talking about the weather, grandkids and the price of the senior coffee if that is where the conversation leads.

Are you involved in a McClub or something similar? Do you know the secret handshake or secret rules to join a McClub? Does your town have a "Learning Center" where all the local scholars meet regularly? Any unique social gatherings out there? I do attend two metal detecting club meetings a month as part of my social engagement in retirement. Do you attend hobby club meetings as a social engagement?

Monday, October 25, 2021

Mick, Mack or Muck

I have a friend who has given me a hard time about how I pronounce McDonald's. In thinking about it, I know I'm saying it correctly and he is the one that is wrong. I found this on a Google search:

The words ‘Mc’ and ‘Mac’ mean the same: "son of".

It’s either pronounced as ‘Mc’ without any sort of gaps or elaborate expression between the letters M and C, or ‘Mac’ with the space between M and C being occupied by an American ‘a’ sound. Generally surnames starting with ‘Mc’ are more likely to be Irish, whilst surnames that start with ‘Mac’ are more commonly Scottish.

I pronounce McDonald's as Mack Donald's. It only makes sense. Mick Donald's or Muck Donald's does not make any sense and is clearly in violation of the above description. Obviously Mick and Muck would change the meaning of the Mc for sure. Plus Mick sounds like a boxer and Muck sounds like a coal miner. While Mack sounds like the name of a guy wearing a white apron and hat while cooking hamburgers at a grill in the 1950's. My friend, if I remember correctly, says it quick but I still hear Muck Donald's. This is clearly wrong. Maybe it is pronounced differently in different states. I did grow up in Texas, so maybe it is a Texas thing. I've been questioned about my use of "fixin to" also. I lived in southern Illinois at the time, and our neighbors were perplexed about the statement "We are fixin to go to town". "Fixen" has to be a Texan or Southern thing.

Back to Mack Donald's. When I think about their menu, there is a variety of Mc sounds in there. A McFlurry is clearly a Muck Flurry. A McMuffin is clearly a Muck Muffin. I'm even good with Mick Flurry or Mick Muffin. But, Mack Flurry and Mack Muffin just doesn't sound right to me. I don't think the Mc rule of "mac" pertains to these as they are made up pretend words. Maybe McDonald's shouldn't make up all these extra names.

This is a silly blog post, I know. But, it will help set up the next blog post that is related to retirement, I promise!

How do you say McDonald's? Are there other local sayings such as "fixen to" that have been brought to your attention as you travel to different regions?

Maybe I should avoid the whole controversy altogether and just say "I'm fixen to go to the golden arches".

Tuesday, October 19, 2021

On The Receiving End of Charity

This is the time of year that our mailboxes are full of requests for donations to many charities. We get requests frequently from St. Judes, MD Anderson, Shriner's and many, many others. There are many requests from food banks and various "feed the hungry" organizations. We have given often to some of these organizations such as St. Judes and Shriner's. It is always hard to see children suffering from disease at such a young age and just breaks my heart.

When writing my check to these organizations I don't give it a tremendous amount of thought as to the impact it may have. I'm embarrassed to say my checks are not large but I hope that if thousands or tens of thousands give just a little, it will all add up to help the cause. We often listen to Christian radio stations and they seem to have fundraising drives on a regular basis. There are a lot of needs out there and I'm sure it is tough competition for all the charities chasing your donations. I shop often at charitable thrift stores, so hopefully my purchases will result in providing small amounts to assist in these causes.

My family has been fortunate over the years and has not been in need of charitable assistance. Other than the government cheese and butter I remember getting from the back of a truck when I was a kid, I can't think of being on the receiving end of charity over the years. Does anyone else remember the cheese and butter? We lived in a small town of about 800 in Texas and it had to be mid 1970's. The word would get out the cheese and butter truck was in town and everyone went up and got a block of butter and block of cheese. Good stuff! Everyone got it, no criteria that I can recall, no income limits or anything else. Just free cheese and butter!

Well......things have flipped on me and now my wife and I have been and are currently on the receiving end of charity. When my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer in June 2021, our lives were turned upside down. She is being treated at MD Anderson Cancer center in Houston, about 8 hours from our home of Oklahoma City, OK. We traveled back and fourth by car and plane for 6 trips for appointments, surgery and follow up. We stayed in hotels during those trips between 3 and 14 days at a time. Beginning the first of this month (Oct) she started chemo that is a 5 month period, she takes a 4-6 week break then another 1 1/2 months of radiation. Due to the frequency of the treatments and how she would feel, we knew we would be camping out somewhere in Houston for 6 1/2 months total. We expected it to be costly.

Here is where we flipped to the receiving end of charity. A niece of ours (Thanks Holly!) set up a fundraising effort on something called the Meal Train to help offset the cost of meals while we were in Houston for treatment. This was unexpected by us and greatly appreciated. She raised over $1,000 with her effort and the money was transferred to our account. We withdrew it, stuck the cash in an envelope specifically for our meals in Houston. We were blown away by the contributions and are extremely thankful. A lot of the donations were from friends and family, many who had experienced dealing with cancer or had close family that had dealt with cancer.

Before heading to Houston, we had put our name on several waiting lists for free housing specifically for cancer patients that lived outside the Houston area. We had not heard from any, so we went ahead and leased a furnished apartment on a month to month lease. It was cheaper than a hotel and would be more comfortable with a kitchen and living room. Cheaper than 30 days in a hotel but still expensive. Four days into our stay in the apartment we get a call from one of the apartments that had availability. We accepted the apartment and moved in the next day. We were able to get a partial refund on the furnished apartment as they were able to lease it again.

So, here I sit in our charitable "free" apartment and we are both so thankful for it. It is nice, it has everything we need for a comfortable stay. We are limited to 3 months, but got very lucky and were able to secure a similar apartment with another charity for the next 2 months. The contributors to these two charities have provided a tremendous blessing to us during this time. We will forever add these two charities to our giving list! The apartment complex we are in has about 46 apartments, all filled with patients and caregivers of MD Anderson and other hospitals. Our current one is Hospitality Apartments and our next one is The Ballard House. I can't say enough good about them both.

So, next time you write a check or send money online to a charity please know that your money will help someone in need. I hope you never need to be on the receiving end but if you do, I hope there is a charity there to meet your need and make life a little better for you. I know the two that we are using here in Houston have been a tremendous help and have taken a huge burden off of us so we can concentrate on getting her better.